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29 Sept 2022

Positive Parenting: The birds and the bees: Talking about safe sex

Positive Parenting: The birds and the bees: Talking   about safe sex

Start the conversation early in an age appropriate way. Young children are naturally curious about their bodies so name their parts for them and answer any questions they have in simple language

FOR SOME parents, talking to children about sex, sexual relationships and sexuality can be challenging. We may not have had the best sex education ourselves, so we might be unsure what to say and how to say it. We might also be unsure if we have all of our own facts straight or if we might even be encouraging our children to have sex early if we are too open about the subject. In addition, many young people are overexposed to pornography so we may think they know more than we do.
This isn’t the case, though, and young people still need information and support from the caring, responsible adults in their lives. The evidence tells us that young people who have parents who communicate openly and honestly about all issues sex-related tend to make more positive, less risky choices. And, when they do make mistakes, they are more likely to find the help and support they need. Part of these conversations need to include how to keep themselves and their potential partners safe from sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies. Below are some tips on how to get the conversation started.
n If you can, start the conversation early in an age appropriate way. Young children are naturally curious about their bodies so name their parts for them and answer any questions they have in simple language. You don’t have to go in to details, but try not to let them feel any shame or embarrassment in asking the questions.
n Get your own facts straight. There is lots of information out there about sex and contraception, so take some time to update your own knowledge. Have a look at www.sexualwellbeing.ie to find evidence-based information and support. Find out what resources are available locally (their GP, the Family Planning Clinic, the STI Clinic in University Hospital Limerick.) You don’t need to know everything, but try to show a willingness to help your son or daughter find the information they need
n If they do ask for support in accessing birth control, stay calm and talk to them openly. Help them access appropriate medical advice. Let them know you are there to help them think through the best, safest option for them
n Try not to have “The Big Talk”. Instead, have regular, casual conversations as issues arise. If you are watching something together or if your son or daughter tells you something that happened to a friend, ask him or her open questions about what they think and share your own thoughts. If, for example, they tell you that one of their friends is dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, you can ask them if they are concerned that this might happen to them. This will help them to see that you are not afraid to talk about these subjects and that you want to communicate with them.
n Remember that talking about sex with your son or daughter, including how to use and access contraception, doesn’t meant that you are actively encouraging them to have sex. Talk to them about contraception in the context of positive, consensual relationships and make sure they know they have options, including to not have sex until they are ready.
This article was contributed by a member of Parenting Limerick. Parenting Limerick is a network of parenting and family support organisations. For more information on this and other topics go to www.loveparenting.ie.

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